Oral servitude

Oral servitude, also known as oral service and oral slavery, is a BDSM practice in which the submissive partner serves their Dominant sexually using their mouth. Although it is usually associated with oral sex and practices such as cock worship and pussy worship, oral servitude can be expanded to any activity in which a submissive uses their mouth to provide sexual pleasure to their Dominant.

The practice of oral servitude can be expressed in one-off acts of oral service, usually within a broader scenario involving other BDSM activities such as spanking, humiliation, or bondage, or it can be transformed into a form of relationship in which the sexual service of the Dominant partner with the mouth is the primary task of the submissive.

The BDSM relationship built on the basis of oral servitude usually does not involve sex for the submissive. This is a typical service-oriented Domination and submission relationship, in which the submissive partner provides oral services to their Dominant as a sign of devotion and obedience without expecting the same in return. While this type of relationship may seem extremely unequal to an outside observer, many submissives and slaves feel happy to serve their Dominant in this way. They are usually referred to as oral slaves and, less commonly, as oral submissives.

First and foremost, oral servitude involves providing oral stimulation to the genitals upon request.

The oral slave must use their mouth, lips, tongue, throat, and sometimes teeth to arouse the Dominant or bring them to orgasm. Satisfying a male Dominant may include taking the penis into the mouth, licking the head of the penis and testicles, sucking them, teasing them with the tongue, as well as performing deep throat. When serving a female Dominant, stimulation can be directed towards her clitoris and labia, and also towards the vagina, which the oral slave must penetrate with their tongue. Oral stimulation of the genitals can also include the perineum (the area between the genitals and anus) and, less frequently, the anus itself (rimming), due to the risk of transferring infections from the anus to the genitals during simultaneous stimulation.

The purpose of genital stimulation is usually to provide sexual pleasure and orgasm. This is a typical form of oral sex. However, it is not uncommon for the oral slave to have the task of arousing their Dominant as preparation for engaging in sexual intercourse with another partner, often performed in front of the oral slave. In this practice, the oral slave is objectified by their Dominant as a simple instrument of arousal. Some male Dominants go even further by using the mouth of their oral slave to ejaculate into after having vaginal or anal sex with another partner, degrading their oral slave to a container for bodily waste. Similarly, many female Dominants require their oral slaves to clean them with their tongues after they have had vaginal or anal sex with another partner.

In classic oral servitude, the submissive must always and at all times be ready to orally serve their Dominant according to established protocols between them, often regardless of the circumstances under which the service may be requested.

Many Dominants establish strict rules regarding the manner in which the oral slave must serve them. This usually includes both the position the submissive must assume (typically on their knees, hands behind their back) and any other actions they must perform. A typical protocol would also include the submissive's gaze ("unseeing gaze" or directed at the Dominant's eyes or face while servicing them), the sounds and words they are allowed or required to make during the act (groans, moans of pleasure, or complete silence), and the sequence of actions they must perform.

Some Dominants expect spontaneity, while others impose strict rules regarding the oral slave's appearance—clothing, hairstyle, makeup, scent. This may include forced nudity or a requirement to wear certain clothing, most often sexually appealing (lingerie) or made of fetishistic materials such as leather, rubber, or PVC. The requirement for specific clothing may be chosen as a sexual stimulus for the submissive, for the Dominant, or for both partners. Many Dominants force their oral slaves to wear chastity devices to emphasize their sexual inferiority or objectify them as an instrument for oral sex, often using a BDSM mask with only an opening for the mouth, the so-called cocksucking mask.

The protocols established by most Dominants are not limited to the immediate act of performing oral service but also include mouth preparation and follow-up. Some Dominants, especially female Dominants, have strict oral hygiene requirements for their oral slaves, which usually include specific rules for how the oral slave should maintain their mouth and how to prepare it for each act of oral service. These rules may include careful brushing, flossing, and using mouthwash immediately before and sometimes after the act. Dominants who prioritize this will periodically check whether and how their instructions are being followed. In some cases, the toothpaste, type of floss, and brand of mouthwash are predetermined.

Some Dominants establish a list of prohibited foods that the oral slave should avoid under all circumstances, usually 24 or even 48 hours before a meeting with the Dominant. These typically include strong spices such as onion, garlic, black pepper, and chili, which cause bad breath, alter the taste of saliva, or cause heartburn. Other Dominants go further, depriving their oral slaves of food and limiting their fluid intake before oral sex, believing this increases the slave's appetite and enthusiasm during oral service while also leading to thicker and stickier saliva, making the act more enjoyable.

Virtually all Dominants expect their oral slave to swallow their cum. This is a basic rule, both when orally servicing male Dominants and when servicing female Dominants. The mechanisms and nature of female ejaculation are not fully understood scientifically, but female cum is usually understood as the thick milky-white to almost transparent fluid, a product of the Skene's glands, which women secrete during strong arousal and especially during orgasm. This is distinct from the fluid (urine) secreted during "squirting." Typically, the oral slave is required not only to swallow the cum but also to express gratitude for being allowed to enjoy it.

After ejaculation, most people need some time to relax. Many Dominants require their oral slaves to stay away during this time, while others expect their oral slave to gently touch and soothe their genitals with their tongue. Protocols for this period usually include cleaning the Dominant's genitals with a damp cloth or wet wipes and rinsing or washing out the oral slave's mouth so it is ready for subsequent use.

Many oral slaves have a fixation on male or female ejaculation or develop one through their interest in oral service. The attraction to cum is often colloquially called spermaphilia (though this is not a scientific term) or cum fetishism. Paradoxically, some oral slaves genuinely enjoy performing oral sex, especially if they feel coerced by a Dominant, but experience natural disgust toward the look, taste, or consistency of male or female ejaculate. This can be frustrating for their Dominant, who, at the end of the act, may feel confused by the slave's reaction and respond with anger or self-doubt. In such cases, it is beneficial to accept the slave's reaction calmly. A frank conversation after emotions have settled can help the Dominant understand the issue and determine ways to help their oral slave overcome their aversion and get accustomed to the taste of ejaculate.

Training is an important part of the Dominant's interaction with their oral slave and ensures that the established rules and protocols are not only understood by the slave but also carried out as desired. For the slave, the training process can be extremely arousing and rewarding, while for the Dominant, it is a way to solidify their authority and deepen their relationship with the submissive.

The training of the oral slave is traditionally aimed at developing their oral skills and is usually tailored to the specific needs and preferences of the Dominant. It may involve acquiring new techniques deemed necessary or useful by the Dominant, as well as refining already mastered ones—sometimes to the point of complete automation by the slave. The training process can include punishments and rewards and may be combined with other practices such as obedience training or body worship. The ultimate goal is to cultivate in the slave a state that merges psychological conditioning with technical proficiency, known as oral perfection.